Friday, September 27, 2013

A Birthday Spanking

In honor of my special day, we return to Victorian England 
for a birthday spanking from Surrender Your Grace.  

In this scene, Cici and her new sister-in-law have gone for a ride in Hyde Park.  They are discussing how the newly wedded Cici and Andrew, celebrated his birthday.  Enjoy! 

"Have you ever heard of a birthday spanking?"
"Never, what in the world is that?"
"Well, you know Andrew.  He knows everything.  Evidently, there is an old pagan custom during changes in life.  Surrounded by friends and loved ones, a person is spanked to ward off evil spirits.  A birthday was considered a change in life."
"Oh Cici, you weren't gullible enough to fall for that whopper were you?"
Cici grimaced, then pouted in dismay.  Andrew had made up that outrageous tale?  He surely didn't need a reason to spank.  He did it whenever he felt like it.
"I can't believe he let you spank him." 
Cici looked at her startled.  Goodness gracious, what a fool she'd been.
"What's wrong?"
She shook her head, refusing to answer.  Maggie looked at her face and broke out into loud guffaws of laughter causing several park visitors to turn their heads and stare.  Lowering her voice, she commiserated with her friend.  "Oh Cici, he turned it around and spanked you, didn't he?"  

"Yes, he said the person celebrating the birthday got to select the recipient of the spanking.  I am an idiot!  And your brother is certainly in for it when I get home.  He spanked me 29 times, plus one for luck, and one for a happy marriage, the scoundrel.".

I was a little longer than eight lines today.  Hopefully, this once I'll be forgiven.  

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Friday, September 20, 2013

Welcome to Snippet Sunday and SatSpanks  

The week has flown by and the weekend almost crept up on me without a Spanking or a Snippet for Sunday.  What a tragedy that would have been.  Today, I have another snippet from my new release Little Light of Mine (Club Decadence, Book 3)...

Once deeply in love and committed to each other, this pair of star crossed lovers was separated by distance and war.  Now when their happily ever after is finally within reach, fate intervenes and thrusts Elena in the midst of intolerable violence, family secrets and lies.  She flees leaving Dex confused, heartbroken and bitter from a broken engagement.

But Dex has made other plans for his life.  Now the managing partner and the Master Dom for The Club, Dex returns to find his former fiancĂ©e performing in his lounge.  Barely recognizing the girl he once loved, Dex kicks her out of his club without a second thought.  Only he’s lying to himself.  He still wants her with a need so strong it verges on obsession.  He’s determined to dominate her willing body and finally exorcise her from his mind and his life once and for all.  

“Good evening, Elena.  You’re late again, not the best way to start out our agreement, do you think?”
“I’m sorry, but I got to The Club on time it’s just that…”
“The reason doesn’t matter.  I’m sure you remember how I am about promptness.”  Grabbing a straight back chair, he moved it to the center of the room and sat.  “We’ll take care of your correction before we begin the scene; remove your panties, lift your skirt and take your place across my thighs.”

Elena had dreamed about another spanking from Dex for two long years.  She walked quietly to his side, slid off her tiny thong and lifted the short leather skirt.  Feeling his hand gently guiding her as she lowered herself face down across his firm thighs, she sighed softly in contentment.  This felt so right; she had missed him so much.

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Thursday, September 19, 2013

What's In a Name?

  • Betsy Love LDS Author: Struggles with Edits
I need some help with my current 
Work In Progress.  Actually, it's done except for one important detail.  I need a title.  Now, usually these come to me easily during the course of writing the book.  This time it didn't, so I am turning to you my dear friends, fans, readers and 'happen alongs', for help.

What's in a name?  In a book, it is as important as the cover.  It is the first impression, after all and could mean everything to the success of the book, not matter how perfect the author's prose.  
Among the worst titles for 2013 are "Breakfast at Hardee's" and "Howard's Rear End".  The full list can be found at

Let's look at how I titled my Club Decadence series for example; Faithfully was named for a Journey song from the 70’s and the lyrics captured the essence of the couple, committed and loving despite being apart.  It was their song, so naturally this was a perfect title.  Captain, My Captain came from the hero’s Army rank, but also because it was the playful name the heroine called him, neither liking Sir or Master which are so common.  You Said Forever was for the vow of “forever” the H/h made to each other.  Finally, in Little Light of Mine, it is a play on the heroine’s name.  I have always loved the name Elena.  She is Latina and her name in Spanish means “little light”.  It was obvious from there.  It is also the special nickname that Dex calls her along with “chaquita” and a few other Spanish endearments.  I love when a man uses a unique nickname that has a special meaning to just the two of them.

So along those lines, I need your help.  My current work is a western time-travel romance about a modern woman from 2013 who finds herself transported to Wyoming in 1878.  

There Janelle meets the very sexy, masculine and dominant Marshall Aaron Jackson.  They butt heads of course (emotional angst and all that) and he winds up marrying her to save her.  He is her hero until he decides to exercise his husbandly rights in the bedroom.  No I don't mean sex (although there is plenty of that) but in a manner, true to the old west, he must tan her hide, wallop her, give her a good hiding for some disobediently dangerous act.  If you know my books, there is a rift that must be mended, a villain that must be conquered, a love that must be nurtured, and a butt that must be busted.  LOL

Here is some visual assistance that my good spanking fiction friend Laura will appreciate:

Her is an excerpt:

“Give me a minute with her, will you Doc?”  The familiar deep voice captured Janelle’s attention and she turned her head to see its source.  She gaped as she looked at the spitting image of Joe Manganiello her favorite werewolf from True Blood.  His dark brown hair, soulful brown eyes, and scruff of beard were the same as in all of her werewolf Joe sex dreams.  Only this man was taller, hotter and a lot more muscular.  He also appeared to be a heck of a lot angrier. 
The Doc nodded tucking a soft wad of linen in her hand with instructions for her to hold it to her wound to slow the bleeding, then quietly left the room.

As soon as the door clicked shut, Joe’s look alike walked closer to the table and stared down at her.  “Let’s get some things straight, right now.  You will do exactly what the doctor says, you will do it politely and will thank him when he is done.  And if I hear another foul or disrespectful word out of your mouth I will turn you over my knee and paddle your little ass until you can’t sit for a week.  Is that understood?”

OK... Just for pleasure here is another visual aid..

Joe Manganiello (Alcide Herveaux) - Page 2

My working title is "The Marshall's Woman".  Does that work for you?   Any other suggestions?  Please comment below...

Round Table Discussion: Submission

The topic for this round table was originally, submission in or out of the bedroom? This piqued my interest.  Now I think it has become a broader more general discussion so you will find a variety of viewpoints when you vist others at the Spanking Hot Topics Round Table   I would like to indulge myself and continue with the original, taking the in the bedroom viewpoint.  Forgive me if my voice is from a M/f perspective.  It is my POV although the same can just as easily apply to F/m or  M/m.

I will be very upfront and admit that I limit my submissiveness to the boudoir.  I think I fall into the trap of having so much control and responsibility in my daily life, at work, as a mom, daughter, sister, etc.… that sometimes I want someone else to take charge.  And often that comes in the form of submission in the bedroom.

In my marriage, I have a partnership with my spouse but in the bedroom I want him to be in charge for some reason.  I have often wondered why I am this way.  So, in discussing submission today, I thought it might be interesting to explore the ‘why’ of it all. 

Personally, I have had a lifelong fascination with submission in many forms, starting with an innocent curiosity about spanking as a young child. I was a good girl and do not every remember being spanked by either of my parents.  I think that is because they were so occupied with my rowdy older brother that they either had no energy left for the other three of us, or what we did paled in comparison. Poor boy… bwahaha.  He picked on me constantly, so I’m not really that broken up over it.

My interest grew as I grew and expanded to a more sexual curiosity in high school when I discovered some of my mother’s poorly concealed women’s erotica.  Does anyone recall Nancy Friday’s books on women’s sexual fantasies?  Well, I can tell you that the ones including any kind of submission, bondage and most especially spanking were quite dog eared from me. In the picture, look at her face.  Her arm is awkwardly but gently resting on his shoulder as he prepares to whale away. Ah... its the stuff of fantasy.

Whether my mother ever noticed, I’ll never know but she never said a word or changed her hiding spot.

So lets stick with the fantasy aspects of submission and look at female sexual submission.  I can let the other ladies talk about their own beliefs, interests and kinks, because submission takes on many forms and can range from acting out an occasional fantasy, to establishing clear roles in an interpersonal relationship like domestic discipline, to a full time slave lifestyle.  I say to each her own and as long as no one gets hurt (for reals) and it is consensual, go for it.

Let’s look at several theories behind this particular interest. 

One theory is that it is an abnormal mental condition or disorder…    I am a nurse in my day job.  During my career, I received certification as a psychiatric and mental health nurse, working in the field for about fifteen years.  I had the opportunity to become familiar with the DSM which is the psychiatric bible.  Now, I do not consider my submissive desires and fantasies deviant, abnormal or  detrimental in any way. Most people aren’t either.  

I said most people...

However, until recent changes in the manual, I could have been diagnosed with a disorder or condition.  Unreal, huh.  What I do in my bedroom is consensual and as long as it brings pleasure to me and my partner its nobodies business but our own.  However, paraphilia’s include a catchall of “abnormal” sexual behaviors which are commonly seen in spanking and BDSM literature  today.  This includes exhibitionism, fetishism, sexual masochism (including spanking and many other submissive behaviors), sexual sadism and voyeurism.  Fortunately, the criteria have changed so that I would no longer be considered a deviant.  Unless it interferes with activities of daily living; work, family, health or was to the detriment (injury, emotional or physical pain, or death) of others, it is no longer considered “a disorder”. 

Of course there are truly mentally ill people out there, but just because Suzy likes to be spanked by her boyfriend, or Mary likes to be tied to the bed doesn’t mean they have a disorder.  Sheesh!  I can only assume that the former group of prudish, stick up the ass manual writers were psychiatrists that were either sexually repressed or just couldn’t get a date because they were such nerds. Happily, the group has been infiltrated by new psychiatrists who are more open minded, forward thinking or have at least read excerpts from FSOG.

OK, Since I have pooh-poohed the mental deviance theory, I began looking for a physical or social reason for my fascination.  Here my scientific brain found solace.  Let's look at some other theories that make more sense to me and don’t paint people that are a bit different with such a wide brush. 

There are a variety of other theories.  Are you ready?

Classic power dynamic.  He is in charge. She is focused on his every word, eager to do his bidding. He has rules and there are consequences when those rules are not followed. The submissive is awestruck and hangs on his every word.  She enjoys giving of herself, her body, her trust, her submission in exchange for a reward be it pleasure of pain.  Then we often add fantasies, role play, devices and implements.  Yummy... She's naked, he's fully dress, she is in a position of supplication and he is looking down on her with the threat of that evil cane and his complete dominion over her.   Lose the cigarette and who wouldn’t find this appealing?   Or, maybe it's just me.   
Sexual guilt.  Women and society have been programmed to align sexual experience or multiple partners with promiscuity, often calling these women tramps or sluts.  Having sex that is controlled by another relieves us of our guilt, making the dominant ultimately responsible for anything unusual or taboo.  So even if the submissive secretly wants to be spanked, controlled, humiliated or sexually objectified, they are relieved of the guilt of wanting because the partner is ‘making’ them submit.  

Ultimate desirability.  Some women want to be so desirable, attractive  and irresistible that the man loses control and simply must have them, no matter what it takes.  We see it in romance novels all the time.  Studies have also shown that this is a dynamic by socially dominant Alpha females as well.
Animal Instinct. Another theory is that dominant male/submissive female roles are instinctual and natural.  The bigger stronger man has to care for and protect the weaker smaller female.  It is felt that man has a basic instinct to pursue and conquer the female, as much as the woman has a natural inclination to surrender.  Both with an underlying instinctual need to mate and propagate the species. 
Antagonist Makeover – Women often go after the “bad boy”. Why?  Because she hopes to change them and make them into a better man that will fall helplessly in love with them.  We see it in romance novels time and again.  The rugged, handsome bad boy, who might do a bad thing can be forgiven and tamed into marriage. 

The last theory is my favorite and the one I’m inclined to believe.
7.     It is a scientific theory.  Basically the human body is a science project.  As such we are subject to the whims of our hormones and neurotransmitters.  In times of stress; excitement (sexual or otherwise), anxiety, fear, suspense, danger, powerour sympathetic nervous system engages.  Hormone levels like testosterone increase in both men and women just like sex. The increased testosterone then increases dopamine activity in the brain's reward center. That's why we want more...  For the dominant its more sex, more reward, more power/control, more reward, more power/dominance exerted during sex even more reward!!!   On the other side of the coin, submission, a forbidden liaison, the thrill of a spanking or being dominated, pain and sex, all these activities release both adrenaline, which produces physical excitement (rapid breathing, elevated heart rate, sweating, sexual arousal) and endorphins, which are our happy hormones and they make us to feel good.  

So now you have my take on submission and why so many of us girls want it, need it, and can’t wait to get it.  Whether it lurks in your fantasy world, never to be uttered from your feverish lips.  Or whether you wear your freak flag like a badge of honor or a public collar for the world to see.  As long as it's safe, sane and consensual just remember that everyone is wired differently.  Some like vanilla and other’s like raspberry fudge ripple.  There’s really no need to wonder why, just buckle up and enjoy the ride.  

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Spanking Hot Topics Round Table

Friday, September 13, 2013

The sparks are still flying...

It is release day for 
Little Light of Mine Club Decadence, Book 3
So I felt it appropriate to give you a little preview.

 Enjoy a little snippet from  Little Light of Mine

Setting the scene...

 Dex and Elena, although estranged for two years have put their tumultuous feelings aside in order to work together when Elena is asked to do some undercover work for Rossi.  Dex who is furious over this decision, no longer has the right to tell her what to do.  However, Dex is in charge of her training and takes matters in hand when she is distracted and sassy.  The sparks are still flying... 

“This is what I’m talking about.  You don’t follow orders and when you do, you hesitate.  Not the makings of a good soldier.”  

He swatted her again and again, spreading the blows across both cheeks.

Who spanked you while you were gone?”

"No one spanked me, Sir.”

He paused, surprised.  “You went two years without a spanking?  That  explains this attitude and a lot more.”  

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